Thursday, 20 February 2020

Master Key Experience, Week 20 - Don't Poke my Comfy Dome!

For many years, my main goal was to protect my Comfort Zone 

- or my Comfy Dome, as I called it.

I had created a safe place for myself, and hearing that 'learning happens outside of your comfort zone' rubbed me in all kinds of wrong directions. I could learn just fine inside my Comfy Dome!

And I was right. You can learn things inside your comfort zone. 

And I was wrong. There is a limit to how much you can learn if you stay within the boundaries of your comfort zone ... 

......................................... but I was okay with that.

This is how I imagined my "comfy dome" - a safe haven for me to live and be happy. Everything was just fine

Illustration made from combining free Pixabay images. Feel free to use.

Just fine??

I had been telling myself that lie for so long, I believed it. Hey, I liked being comfortable!  Who doesn't?

But how comfortable could I actually be when I was scared shitless of everything outside my own little "Comfy Dome"??

It was indeed little. The world outside of my dome was the scariest place I could imagine:

Illustration made from combining free Pixabay images. Feel free to use.

Did you hear what I just said? "The scariest place I could imagine.". Imagine being the key word!

The scary place was inside me, not out there!!! It's all about perception, and in my mind I had created so much fear that it held me back from living an amazing life. 

I was a prisoner of my own mind.

"Fear is a powerful form of thought. It paralyzes the nerve centers, thus affecting the circulation of the blood. This, in turn, paralyzes the muscular system, so that fear affects the entire being, body, brain and nerve, physical, mental, and muscular." (Charles Haanel, Introduction to Part 19 of the Master Keys)

I know the above is true; I ended up being physically ill. I was not only trapped in my own mind, but in my own body ... all because of fear. Fear that I had created with my own thoughts. I didn't know any better. Or perhaps I did. But I didn't dare to know any better....

Enter the Master Key Experience.

I will be forever grateful to have learnt that we can expand our Comfort Zone, and that we can do it an inch at a time - by gently nudging it, not leaping off the side of the edge. (Been there, done that! Only to fall flat on my nose. I felt like I had taken seven steps forward, then 10 back!!)

Every day since I enrolled at the Master Key Experience in September, I have expanded my comfort zone - nudging it with one easy task at a time. Small steps to create new habits, not at all scary, but amazingly effective!!

The Three Zones:

The comfort zone is where your day-to-day, routine work happens – where you’re on auto-pilot. It’s easy, there are no surprises, and you are confident in what you do. However, very little learning or innovation takes place, and you can become unmotivated, bored and disengaged. Most of us need some days in the comfort zone, when we have the calm and head space to reflect on our experiences and then step back into the stretch zone to apply that learning. 

The learning zone - aka stretch zone lies just outside of your secure environment, slowly expanding your comfort zone by becoming more familiar with more things. The more you stretch, then return to the comfort zone and reflect and apply, the more you grow.

The panic zone is also known as the stress zone. Your energy is used up by trying to control your anxiety, leaving little or no energy left over for learning. Sometimes you may need to enter this area because of a problem, but you should not stay there long, as it can be harmful to your health. 

(Excerpts from an article by Emma Heaps, Nov. 2017)


What would the person I intend to become do next?

When I ask myself that question, this is my answer:

She would continue to nudge and nudge until her comfort zone had expanded even further. Then she'd nudge it again, and again. She would be courageous! She would be curious to see what she could accomplish, how she could be of service on this glorious planet if she continued to nudge that edge, gently, respectfully, with self-compassion. She would get rid of her so-called "Comfy Dome" once and for all and replace it with an actual Comfort Zone, where she would relax and apply what she had learned. Then she'd do it all over again and enjoy the journey like the true hero that she is.

I have used the lion analogy in a previous post. Sometimes I might feel like a tiny kitten, but I know for a fact that I am strong and powerful, like a lion! The person I intend to become lives inside of me. 

She is me. 

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  1. Thank you so much for the explanation of the comfort zone . Your prose flowed wonderfully . Your writing and imagination is superb . You are a hero and you take action . The quote by Emerson is great also

    1. Thank you very much for your kind comment, Phil! ♥ I really appreciate it!

  2. Fantastic Post, Bibi. It explains the Comfort Zone so well. Thanks also for showing us your personal struggle with it. I think, many with me, can feel that you are not alone. You will keep fighting, and we will keep fighting, and we will support each other. Peace be the journey.

    1. Thank you very much for your kind comment, John! ♥ Yes, we will keep fighting. We are courageous AND persistent! :-D

  3. I thought I'd left a comment, oh well 😁 A great post once again Bibi it's been amazing being apart of this journey with you 😁♥️

    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment, Gav! ♥ Right back at you; it's been amazing being a part of this journey with YOU! ♥

  4. Wow. another great post, Bibi! Love this "And I was right... And I was wrong." and your writing. Very insightful work here. Love your idea and description of the comfort dome and great quote by Emerson. Also, love your creativity in combining images! And tech savvy! Beautiful work. Sending love and courage and lots of nudges for your hero's journey. :)

    1. Thank you very much for your kind words, Laura! ♥ *mmwwah!*
      I love playing with images in Photoshop :-)

  5. I love your "Comfy Dome" I used to have one as well...5 years ago or so now.

  6. Thank you, Nameless Friend ♥ Glad to hear you don't have one like that any more :-D


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